What's the Big Deal?

How do you inject the maximum amount of fear and trepidation into your life while also increasing the odds of failure?

You make something a big deal.

I see this play out all the time at work, especially on my current project. Daily meetings are held to tackle issues that don’t need tackling, or worse, issues now need tackling because they were born of too many meetings, pushing the original goal further into the hazy distance and generating problems that shouldn’t exist.

This is one of those principles that seems to apply to all facets of life, whether you’re trying a new type of food, writing a story, or launching satellites into space.

“But, Phillip, you don’t understand. My thing, it… it actually is a big deal.”

Oh, I never meant to imply things aren’t big deals. Life is full of ’em. But what something is doesn’t necessitate how you approach it.

My advice to you is, when possible, lighten upDon’t take life and all of its projects so seriously. You know what needs to be done and you’ll be better served by handling them with a more carefree spirit.

As with all things, I can only speak truthfully from my experiences. What say you?


P.S. I don’t post this because I’m some exemplary model of big-deal-facing-fortitude. I was nudged back into this line of thinking by some friends and by what’s been going on at work, so I thought I’d pay it forward and nudge someone else.

0 thoughts on “What's the Big Deal?

  1. I completely agree with this!!! And your message came at just the right time for me. You make excellent points in this post, and now I’m going to try to really put them in practice for the rest of the week.

    1. Glad it struck a creative nerve for you Lauren! I know it did for me.

  2. “Daily meetings are held to tackle issues that don’t need tackling, or worse, issues now need tackling because they were born of too many meetings, pushing the original goal further into the hazy distance and generating problems that shouldn’t exist.” I’m heading to a meeting like this in a few minutes. Ugh.

    1. Sad to hear it’s an epidemic… I wish you luck! Another blog post may be called for on ways to deal with the nonsense.

  3. I think the advice to “lighten up” goes a long way. We live in a world where we have an infinite audience to express our issues, ideas, big deals to. Because there is an audience, and a lot of times a response, people assume all of their issues are important. It’s a weird side effect of the internet.

    But, as we all know, most issues aren’t a big deal. I’d say 99%, really. It takes an actual big deal to put all the small deals into perspective.

    1. I think inflated egos of those in a corporate environment is the main contributor to the roadblocks and general drivel generated in those meetings.

      And your last sentence, perfect.

  4. I have created a character that is the embodiment of all the chicken shit executives that I have met. There have been wonderful ones as well but the worst always made a big deal out of everything. Nice post. Hate the clown!

    1. I love it, John. Let me know where I can find your book with that character so I can nod my head while reading.

  5. When I think back to all of the “big deals” I’ve experienced over the years…I can’t even remember why everyone was so worked up or the actual outcome. It’s not worth it; enjoy each day and don’t take everything so seriously. Thanks for the reminder, Phillip!

    1. I agree 100% Jill! Thanks for stopping by.

  6. I used to make everything a big deal. It was exhausting. 🙂

    1. So exhausting… No wonder all those people at work are keeping Starbucks profitable.

  7. I’ve been working on this very issue this week–not taking big things so seriously. I’ve found myself taking anything that happens with my business very personally. Some of it feels personal, or is personal, of course, but that doesn’t mean I need to stew about it or waste time being frustrated. And now that I have come to that epiphany, I have to work on the lightening up part!

    1. I hear you Laura. “Lightening up” is not an easy principle put in to practice! My post is a reminder as much to myself as it is to anyone else.

      1. And for sure it was a timely one for me!

  8. Thanks for passing on this nudge. Always a great reminder. If it’s any comfort, I think this type of “mountain out of a molehill” thinking exists in every work place.

    1. I think you’re right Gwen, but I haven’t decided whether that’s a consolation or a scary thought. 🙂

  9. I resigned from my old job because I was tired of this very thing – people making mountains out of mole hills. You need to reserve your big-deal-making strength for actual big deals, and in my opinion, few things in life qualify. People need to C-H-I-L-L! Great post.

    1. So true! Thanks for the comment.

  10. completley agree. You can’t always control your circumstances but you can control the way you react to them and that has a huge impact on what they actually come to mean to you. Obviously there are exceptions. You’re bound to get a few hum-dingers as you venture down this winding road called life. Save the pulling-out of hair reactions for those that need it.

    1. Yeah, for the sake of my already diminishing scalp, I need to keep perspective. 🙂

  11. Uh – the dreaded unnecessary meeting. I was an adjunct professor on a multi-disciplinary teaching team which would meet weekly to discuss how each class went and what they’d do at the next class. In spite of the fact that we had met to do a year-long syllabus. When they held a meeting to decide when there would be a topic specific meeting (I kid you not) I knew the second job had to go. Meetings were part of their culture – a time-wasting part. Thus the benefits of writing alone – if I call myself to a meeting, it’s always absolutely necessary!

    1. I hear ya Shel! When someone says “Let’s have a meeting,” I’ve tried so many times to say “Let’s not,” and hash out the issue then and there. But like you said, that’s difficult when meetings are a part of the culture. It’s almost like bathing or brushing their teeth. If it’s not happening once a day, they almost feel unclean.

  12. Lightening up is one of the hardest things for me to do, even though I need to do more of it. But I am trying!

    1. All we can do is try. I wish us both luck on our journey to not giving such a damn. 🙂

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